Are you a yes person?
Do you hear yourself saying yes out loud but inside your stomach is churning and you are mad that you said yes?
I used to be that person. I used to be a “yes Ma’am” girl ,until I realized that it was to my detriment that I said yes. Saying yes should be something we do because we want to or because we know that it will help someone. But saying yes just because you don’t want to upset anyone means that people will start to take advantage of you. When that happens it is much harder to say no.
Saying no is akin to saying yes to change. As I have said before ,change is scary and often people are more comfortable with the pain they know than the pain they do not know. As humans our initial reaction is to reject change as it is uncomfortable, unknown and at times outright scary . So how DO we and how SHOULD we learn to change and seriously why should we change if we are comfortable where we are?
Simply put, we cannot grow as individuals or a society if we do not change. Changing causes us to be challenged and step out of that dreaded comfort zone we like to bask in. I am not talking about change for change sake , I am talking about when we instinctively know it’s time for change when we reach a crossroad but cannot find the courage to do so.
So here are five tips to help you started:
1) Get used to saying yes to something that makes you happy. Say yes to something small at first, something that will bring a small positive change but won’t be too uncomfortable for you.
2) Start saying no to family members for things you really don’t have time for and you know they can easily do without you. Know that they will be just fine they are just used to you saying yes all the time .
3) Start reading ten pages a day on positive mindset or the courage to change. There are tons of books available in all forms, written ,kindle and audio .Read it, believe it and just do it!
4) Look in your mirror every time you are in the bathroom and repeat to yourself: I am bold,I am brilliant ,I am beautiful .I CHOOSE to say no and I CHOOSE to say yes
5) Help people by volunteering your time. Find something that you like to do and go help others .
Say yes to helping others by enriching your life
Change can begin with baby steps so start off small then once you are comfortable and can see how much your life can change when you say yes on your terms , you will be able to extend that and watch your life change in all areas for the better.
What are your biggest obstacles to change? I would love to hear from you .
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Change is scary but change is good!